Hurting People Hurt People

The truth is words hurt and they hurt the most from people who are the closest to us. the second though it is even more telling. People hurt other people most of the time, those are hurting people.

Most of the people who hurt others have been hurt deeply and/or experienced real pain themselves. Rather than feeling sorry for ourselves, it helps us to understand the needs of hurting people.

Some of that pain probably came from their childhood through what parents did either intentionally or unintentionally. Sometimes those parents took out their pain on their children. Now those children are hurting as adults and wind up hurting other people.

I believe in responsibility. I don’t want to excuse bad and hurtful behavior, but I know that people who hurt others have tremendous needs.

It’s easy to pull away from those people who hurt you. In fact, it’s the easiest thing to do.

But what those people need is somebody who cares for them unconditionally.

Hurting people needs a deeper friendship. They need people who will seek to understand them and get to know them. This isn’t always easy because hurting people drive people away.
Yet people need to be heard and understood.

Best Friends Become Strangers

I’ve believed that people have its own role in our lives, particularly friends and being our friends. Our friends and family show us how to grow and we have room to develop, no matter what age you are. The sad thing about that, is sometimes you no longer get anything out of a friendship and you have to say goodbye.

Sometimes we accidentally or intentionally hurt one another and have a disagreement that they simply can’t get past. It has a lot more to do with a disagreement. One person peeved doesn’t end a friendship. It has to be a great trauma. You can’t keep people in your life if you’re going to hold onto toxic feelings in order to be with them. If you can’t get over pain inflicted by a friend, it’s time to move on.

We lose friends from time to time. It doesn’t serve us to hold onto regrets and anger, nor blaming yourself for friends lost. Understand the falling out happened and move on. Sometimes friendships can be repaired years later. Other times, not. You can truly only do your best.

Joy To The World

During Christmas holidays people have this joy everywhere. For you to know joy means a feeling of great pleasure and happiness. We hear this word often throughout Christmas holiday, it maybe in songs, poems and even in decorations.

The year should be focused around great pleasure and happiness, as people come together to remember the past year and hopefully feel excited about what is to come. It’s really a time for reflection, anticipation and comfort as well. We rest in the memories that have led us to this point.

One of the common phrases that includes this feeling is Joy to the world, which is, famous to Christmas songs. The popular hymn praises the coming of Jesus into the world in shouting, Joy to the world, the Lord is come.Joy to the world, the Savior reigns. This song celebrates the birth of Jesus, but it also reminds us that this is the time when joy was brought into the world.

We have a part to play in this song as well. The popular Christmas tune continues, let earth receive her King. This tells us that we are responsible for receiving this gift of Jesus and for allowing joy to enter into our lives. By letting every heart prepares him room, we are able to bring joy into our reality and create space for it every day. This is something we can learn to do throughout the year. Not just at Christmastime.

Be Your Own Best Friend

Wherever you go, there you are. You will always be there, wherever you go. Wouldn’t it be great if you had at least one person you could count on?

That might sound insignificant, but there are a lot of people who don’t even have that.

They could be their own worst enemy.

If you choose to be your own best friend, to the end, then go for it, you’ll have a better mindset. You’ll be your own coach, not your own worst critic. You’ll practice self-compassion, which will necessarily show up as compassion for others. You’ll also avoid co-dependent relationships, because you’ll have a firm foundation and a shoulder to lean on.

If you choose to be your own best friend, you’ll give much better vibes, and attract the right people, versus somebody who hates themselves.

After all, if you don’t want to be friends with you, why should anybody else.

Everybody’s worth it, everybody deservers it, everybody needs it, so make this choice, and choose it

Surround Yourself With Amazing People

Seek the high ground. And you can find amazing people. Amazing people help you see what’s possible in life. They own their future and they shape their destiny, they march to the beat of their own drum, they challenge themselves they take on big challenges, they use their gifts, talents, and special abilities to blaze trails, move mountains, and change the world.

They inspire you to do the same.

Add more amazing people to your life, so that you have a constant barrage of brilliance that can’t help but lift you to new heights.
Amazing people are all around you. You just need look or be observant to your surroundings.

Families For A Lifetime

We choose our friends, but not our family this is typically wrong. We actually choose our families before birth. It is part of our life plan before we arrive on this planet. As the day goes by plans unfolds, some of us will be blessed with abundant love and support from our families, while others will not. Either way, it will all be part of our original plan.

Because sometimes we need a lousy family to get us started on our journey towards personal growth, success and spiritual fulfillment. But if someday you reach a sloping point, where the lack of family love and support no longer serves your path towards fulfilling your true destiny. Sometimes a life plan also demands that we choose our families more than once in a lifetime.

As We Grow Up

When I was younger, I thought my task was to succeed as an individual. But growing older has helped me realize that our success lies in our relationship with the family we are born into, the friends we make, the people we fall in love with, and the children we have. Sometimes we struggle and sometimes we adapt.

We are all leaders and followers in our lives. We are constantly learning from the teaching of others. But the most important work is not done by those who seem the most important, but by those who care the most.

Be With The Right People

Meeting new people is a part of everyday life, also, everything happens for a reason. Some people become a significant part of our daily life, some are for occasional circumstances and some just flew away.

Your circle of friends, the people you interact and engage with and the people you choose to get to know are the sources of your social influences, either good or bad. The kind of social influence you get becomes part of your personality, particularly, your attitude and belief on a particular thing and the behavior you manifest. Who your social network are and the people you know determine who the kind of person you are. A proverb says, “Birds of a feather flock together.” Another kind of people you will encounter are the kind of toxic people and will just mess up your day. Thus, be careful in choosing the people whom you connect with.

Meanwhile, sometimes we judge hastily a person. Know the background of the person well first before deciding to share social influences. Be sensitive to how the person acts and what he/she says because it shows the type of personality he/she is, to get the appropriate dealing with the person. Also, sometimes we are objective in seeing and imposing in dealing with other people, understand that people have a diverse unique personality and character and know that you could not put them in a box, you have no authority over this reality, let them be.

You have no control over who you can come across every day and their being, but you could know who the people are that make sense.

Love And Forgive

Love is the glue that holds a relationship together. While intimacy allows for closeness, it also requires us to be vulnerable.

They often say, “the one you love hurts you the most,” because love extends beyond yourself and you would rather hurt yourself than the one you love.

Growing up you must have also heard the phrase “I’ll forgive but I’ll never forget.” Of course, you could not undo the memory of the past, but you have to treasure the lesson it has taught you for your carry on, face and accept the reality, then forgive. On the other hand, if forgiveness means wiping the slate clean, this quote is the antithesis of forgiveness. For if we can never forget, then we are guaranteed to carry the messy pain from our past into our hearts.

In the same manner, deal with post-break-up positively, try to forget the toxic memories, the pain and hurts, but learn, then forgive. Letting the person be is the true meaning of love. Find peace in your heart, forgiveness is the cure for the hurt. Do not allow the pain to have power over you.

Tips For Students In Managing Finances

Managing finances can be tricky for young adults. The good news is you can educate yourself about responsibly managing your finances and avoid potential mistakes from which it could take years to recover. Learning how to manage finances early is an important part of financial education for students and will be a helpful guide on the path to a healthy financial future.

To manage your finances, first, open a bank account. This may seem obvious but if you don’t have one you are going to have a tough time to get control of your finances.

Second, set your financial goals, it is a smart step you can easily do and can be very rewarding. Instead of wandering, you have something to strive for and a clear path to what you want to achieve.

Third, create a budget plan and following a realistic budget plan helps you avoid making purchases you can’t afford, get short of budget and sacrificing your other more important necessities. Fourth, do not spend your money on unnecessary things, prioritize your finances and save; these can help you reach your financial goals.